Called out.

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"You say you have a conviction to be home with the girls. I don't think you do. I think when you say that, you mean you just don't want to work outside the home. In fact, I think it means you don't want to work at all....your problem is that no one is calling you out on your "conviction". You need to be called out to see if you really mean it."

Sometimes, the words that cut deepest are the ones that might have some truth to them. Sometimes, those cutting words come from those who are closest to us, whether they mean us harm or not.

Sometimes, I need to be called out and made sure that I'm sure of what and why I hold the convictions I cling to. Why do I feel the need to be home? Is it because it's easier than going out and working? Maybe. I do struggle with laziness and I don't like confrontation, so it's easier for me to be home and out of humanity's way. My kids can't fire me when I have a terrible day; they are much more likely to hug & forgive me.

I'd like to think it's more noble than that; that I am called to be home with my daughters because the Lord of glory determined it from the get-go - but I'm often met with 'yeah, that's everyone's excuse: God wants them to. and you can find a verse or two to back yourself up" when I say that.

So now, it's time to reassess what I have come to believe about a mother and a wife...back to the Word I go. Lord, should the truth be laziness, reveal it to me plainly and cause me to turn my back on it by doing what You need me to do to be the wife You've called me to be.

Have you ever been 'called out' to examine why you believe what you do?

for Your glory, Jesus,
call me out into Your truth,

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  1. Perhaps it is the enemy trying to mess with you? Even the worst house keeper on the planet is still right where she should be unless the Lord has specifically called her to be elsewhere. Other people may think you are a slacker, but it is the Lord's opinion of you and what He wants you to do, where He wants you to be that matters the most. If you are struggling with house keeping why automatically assume it is laziness? Why beat yourself up or allow others to do it? Wanting everything to be perfect, yet knowing it can never be the way we imagine it has been known to be a source of inactivity. Before you go tearing yourself up, seek the Lord and ask Him what is going on and how you should be spending your days, 'Lord, what do you want me to do today?' is a quick and easy way to seek His will everyday.
    Here is a link to an article from the now out of print magazine; Crowned with Silver. http://thelegacyofhome.blogspot.com/2013/12/crowned-with-silver.html
    In it, a husband recounts how he lost everything when his wife went back to work. Now, I'm not saying you will divorce your husband if you get a job outside the home. What I am saying is be careful. Things are not always what we think they are or will be in these situations.

  2. I have a 9-month-old (my first). I mostly work from home and have done so since she was born on a part-time basis, but when she was 6 months old I got a full-time contract job outside the home for a couple of months.

    I am here to tell you that working outside the home is NOT harder than staying home - some days I was quite happy to get out with adults for a few hours and leave the nanny to deal with the diapers and constant monitoring of a wiggly baby!

    There is no magic dream role here. Being a SAHM, homeschooling mum is sometimes great and sometimes awfully tiring; being a working mum is sometimes great and sometimes awfully tiring. Anyone who acts like one is 'easy' obviously hasn't tried both.

    I just don't know why mothers are often so judgemental of other mothers. I can only assume it's because they themselves are feeling guilty about something.